Who Can I Talk to If I Don’t Trust My Family?

It’s hard to put the function back into a dysfunctional family. When a family grapples with addiction to drugs like Tramadol, abuse or issues of control, it’s important to reach outside for professional help.

Ideally, family members should help each other during difficult times, but sometimes family dynamics are strained and relationships are damaged. When someone knows her family cannot help with her addiction, there are options for getting help. Developing the willpower to go outside for treatment, however, is difficult for someone unable to trust family members.

It’s normal for a person raised in a dysfunctional family to have trouble identifying appropriate behavior. She may have trouble forming healthy relationships or trusting anyone. When a person struggles with addiction and feels isolated or harmed by her family, there are initial steps that can begin the healing process. Brown University’s Counseling and Psychological Services department recommends taking some time to consider a different life by using the following steps:

  • Be honest about problems—think about any painful experiences during childhood.
  • Create a list of unwanted behaviors to change.
  • Along with the list of unwanted behaviors, make a list of desirable behaviors and beliefs.
  • Choose the easiest item on the list, and start practicing the behavior or belief.
  • Once the first desirable item becomes easier than an unwanted item, move on to another desirable behavior.[1]

Feeling motivated to make a change is an excellent first step for tackling addiction. When family members are discouraging or unable to offer support, turn to a family physician, trusted counselor or addiction treatment facility to talk about next steps. Admissions coordinators at Foundations Recovery Network, for example, offer advice about treatment at all types of facilities. They recommend the best option for a person, even if a FRN facility isn’t the right fit.[2]

Handling Dysfunctional Families

Reaching out for addiction help for drugs like Tramadol may seem like admitting defeat, but it’s actually a decision that improves overall quality of life. Over time, addiction symptoms worsen. A person will spend more and more time thinking about drugs and alcohol until substance use is a compulsion. With no family support, professional addiction treatment is even more crucial.

People from dysfunctional families are more likely to develop an addiction. Some people turn to drugs or alcohol because it was how a parent or coped with hard times. Others abuse drugs as a way to dull the pain of an abusive situation. No matter how a dysfunctional family affects a person, it’s necessary to clearly see the connection between substances and poor family relationships.[3]

Addiction treatment programs that incorporate family therapy can be a good option for improving trust issues and healing relationships. By its nature, addiction treatment is a highly individual process. Someone who grew up with a lot of conflict needs to learn constructive ways to handle tension and stress. Developing a good coping mechanism for managing tough situations through exercise, meditation or other strategies gives a person an edge when fighting temptations to use drugs like Tramadol. Having family members on board with these strategies and including them in therapeutic sessions to learn the techniques improves everyone’s chances for better relationships. Successful family therapy not only benefits day-to-day activities, it also helps end the cycle of addiction and dysfunction that occurs when families handle things inappropriately.[4]

Need Help Finding Addiction Treatment?

Addiction treatment is crucial for the well-being of an individual and her family and friends. Going without treatment makes someone more vulnerable to crises situations in the future and prevents healing from current problems.

If you or a loved one needs help finding an effective treatment program for addiction to drugs like Tramadol, please call our toll-free helpline. Our treatment philosophy is based on helping the whole person, mind, body and soul. We specialize in treating co-occurring disorders, such as substance addictions that occur along with mental health conditions.

A successful recovery means lifestyle changes that help a person avoid temptations and unhealthy habits. Our admissions coordinators are trained to find the best treatment program for each individual person. Our toll-free helpline is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Don’t wait to find help. Call today.


[1] Brown University Counseling and Psychological Services. (2016). Dysfunctional Family Relationships. Retrieved Jan. 3, 2016 from http://www.brown.edu/campus-life/support/counseling-and-psychological-services/dysfunctional-family-relationships.

[2] Foundations Recovery Network. (2016). What to Expect When You Call. Retrieved Jan. 3, 2016 from http://www.foundationsrecoverynetwork.com/contact-us/.

[3] National Institute on Drug Abuse. (2007). Understanding Drug Abuse and Addiction: What Science Says. Chapter 4: Risk Factors. Retrieved Jan. 3, 2016 from http://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/teaching-packets/understanding-drug-abuse-addiction/section-ii/4-risk-factors.

[4] Werner, D., Young, N.K., Dennis, K, & Amatetti, S. (2007). Family-Centered Treatment for Women with Substance Use Disorders – History, Key Elements and Challenges. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Retrieved Jan. 3, 2016 from http://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/family_treatment_paper508v.pdf.